Looptijd: 12:30
Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
Sources:
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Books mentioned in the endcard:
'Emotional First Aid' by Guy Winch
www.amazon.com/Emotional-First-Aid-Rejection-Everyday/dp/0142181072/
'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
www.amazon.com/Loneliness-Human-Nature-Social-Connection/dp/0393335283/
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18 uur geledenBaker Family
If you’re seeing this, Jesus is the answer for you!
Uur geledenInsane arbiter
Thanks for the quality content
Uur geledenB H
Men need to value their loneliness becuase majority of the population doesn't care about men's well being in General. Going your own way is the answer to save men from the gynoncentric shithole that males live on.
Uur geledenDamian Cruz
In case you created this video because you felt alone, I am here if you need to talk
Uur geledenQuickPro Studios
Amazing vid, as always! I love this calm piano music.
28 minuten geledenchristianne delos santos
5:26 well damn, I gotta stop being lonely.
28 minuten geledenCatch My Drift
You reading this..... Nothing is wrong with you. You know what worked for me? Light exercise, setting 3 months goals and good food (healthy). And try CBD oil....trust me. I'm better now
28 minuten geledenLake Show
Thankfully life is short
28 minuten geledenLadyT
It isn't good health mentally or emotionally to be alone all the time. People can die of loneliness. I plan to get a car soon and take senior ladies I know places. Offer to help someone, do something nice for someone, no more lonely!
28 minuten geledenevenmorenonsense
"We're living in the most connected time in human history and yet we feel isolated" They said this back in 1996 right around the time the internet got big. Think about that!
28 minuten geledenEtwin Luna
Anyone else is lonely 😞
29 minuten geledenTricia Martii
See I told you mom. Being “emo” was not a phase
29 minuten geledenrepoilify
Fuck.
29 minuten geledenAaliyah C
His voice made me sleepy lol😂 *in a good way*
29 minuten geledendan frees
The fact the video is #1 trending says a lot.
29 minuten geledenUnknown Person online
I’m always lonely haha..... Yea I am... I HATE MY LIFE 🙃😖😔
29 minuten geledenAaron Moore
thank you.
29 minuten geledenmeschell waller
This feeling all to familiar 😔
29 minuten geledenPantingCat
What a beautifully poignant video. Thank you for helping me realize what I am doing to myself.
29 minuten geledenÐamoj Il
Aghud irë nachu giol bhocaillí par ihł ići inë lahú níl cara'i
30 minuten geledenGeorgina Bernal
Lololololol im lucky I have so Okay one friend.............. That likes me 🤥😱
30 minuten geledenNayla Sengchan
This really hits me
30 minuten geledenK.H.A.R Wade
Who else is salty Kofi lost!
30 minuten geledenBilly Bob
This makes me wanna cry but I ain't no bitch like if you cried
30 minuten geledenAmpwich
So hard to find people my age let alone make friends at all. And finding lvoe seems damn impossible. I just wanna die...is this all life is? Going to work and being alone? I have another like 70 uears of that crap?...
30 minuten geledenmisterexe hasstopped
I have some fake friends who my actual friend got rejected and they kicked out of the game
30 minuten geledenRyan Corrigan
#2 on trending for a reason. And yes, I am lonely too.
30 minuten geledenoftedical
Why is this 1 trending
30 minuten geledenGoahead
Due to cell phones and social media, we are more disconnected with other humans more than ever. Texting is different from talking to a human being. I think being lonely is one of the major contributors to socital violence such as mass shootings. These depressed socially isolated humans can't take it anymore and lash out at the outside world. I am sad that this is happening. And today's politically divided nation is making the matters worse.
31 minuut geledenPaul Bujak
Fuck this.
31 minuut geledenAbout Studies
Thank you
31 minuut geledenEd Lopez
i am lonely.
31 minuut geledenFrostlike
#1 ON TRENDING !!! Lets go!!! This ain't lonely anymore!
31 minuut geledenUsama Nasir
Just brilliant! You made my thoughts clear. I know more of myself now. Thank you! ❤
31 minuut geledenGamingJose
These videos are so much better without a lousy connection to a sponsor at the end.
31 minuut geledenKevein Kevin
Good thing Im way too autistic to feel petty human emotions such as "lonliness"
32 minuten geledenJafuee
This video brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.
32 minuten geledenBen -the human
Advantages of being an introvert: You like being lonely meaning you are rarely lonely, you are just alone, not lonely.
32 minuten geledenShakil Mahbub Hussain
This just might be the best video of this channel.
32 minuten geleden小林八城
Thanks, I'm not alone again 😊
32 minuten geledenPseudo Nguyen
Let’s make a cult!
32 minuten geledenReinbow_slime I love mom
Привет💜
32 minuten geledenJay
This comment section is now a venting area lol
32 minuten geledenHalario
now I'm questioning if I'm in denial of being lonely ???
33 minuten geledenbrad Martin
As I watch this alone feeling alone
33 minuten geledenCapriBea
This is number 1 on trending hhmmm.
33 minuten geledenDaniel Pinto
Kudos Kurzgesagt! When I think I've seen it all, you manage to surprise me. Please continue with the well researched, intelligent analysis of not only scientific but also humanistic and very relevant topics to our modern way of life. You bring a new perspective to the table. I'll be here watching as usual
33 minuten geledenShrekVonDinky
if this topic wouln't tear me up, then this background music certainly did it's job
33 minuten geledenLaurel
I feel personally attacked.
33 minuten geledenAntimatterstudios
I found this very ironic for how I have been feeling for the last while and then one of my favourite youtubers uploaads a video about it.
33 minuten geledenjack89harrier
Smash dislike for Loneliness ☺ Smash like for Suicide 🙃
33 minuten geledenMark Rehme
Its a day late and a dollar short for me.
33 minuten geledenOliver Pedraza
Hermoso video :'v Ojalá lo hubiera visto antes
33 minuten geledenDie Putzfrau
This video was posted before or?
34 minuten geledenoober bear
Wow this video was uploaded to the German channel a month ago
34 minuten geledenDevilsPride666
People=shit
34 minuten geledenmyYT Acc
Yo this shit hit deep like... woah.
34 minuten geledenInfiniTea
Who else was lonely on valentines. Help me get to 1,000 subs, so I can get a supporter creator code! It would help a lot!
34 minuten geledenFoxxer Edits
this got me in the feels
34 minuten geledenChargersFanSD
Was teased at school for being a loner, am alone as an adult now as well, but couldn't be happier, I'm my own best friend, don't need no one else!!!
34 minuten geledenMichael jackson
fuck
34 minuten geledenJimmy Salas
Thanks guys 🖤
34 minuten geledenAndrey Cerda
Follow me on insta @mr_guinea.pig
34 minuten geledenG J
Me
34 minuten geledenSpongebob SquarePants
Bold of you to assume that I have any friends
35 minuten geledenDaimon Byl
Funnily enough I was doing some research into this a few months ago and it really is interesting
35 minuten geledenCésar Pulido Aguilar
Esto parece un proceso de reprogramación de ventas, creado por empresas para aumentar el consumo en masa. Al parecer sienten que hay menos compras porque la gente está más distraída con la tecnología y eso no les agrada.
35 minuten geledenRicky Gonzalez
Where do people get these stats no one has ever asked me shit lmao
35 minuten geledenOptimus Prime
#1 Trending
35 minuten geledenFiona O'Keefe
When I’m alone lonely or depressed, I go online and shop! I just spend money on items that make me happy or I order pizza and sit in front of the tv in my pjs catching up on episodes of shows I never watched but like ok I’ll watch them now! Or I sleep, yes sleep the day and night away but truthfully it hurts more to wallow in self pity cuz there’s always someone out there around the world that’s suffering and in need! Sometimes you have to get off the couch and be active in volunteering or just lending a hand to help others, when you focus your energy on helping others the less time you have to sit around and feel sick sad and sorry!
35 minuten geledenBagel UwU
1 in trending at 11:20 pm
35 minuten geledenthirsty cactus
#1 on trending,,,,, are y'all ok??? edit: oh fuck oh fuck i'm crying now
35 minuten geledenBig Boss - Clash of Clans
2:30 *when you get caught in the storm on PUBG*
35 minuten geledenRandy R
We can thank technology for parts of this. It has made us further isolated an more stressed out. I am physically alone 90 to 95 percent of the time. But it was not like this at the many other places I have lived. Phoenix has been a hard place to break into. Thankfully I have learned how to be comfortable in my own body or I would go mad, or lose my sobriety. My career crashed 5 years ago an that made it worse. I am a friendly person but it is still hard. My making videos an trying to help others, helps me
36 minuten geledenAmpwich
Nothing but work, church, and home for me....and everyone keeps to themselves or are too busy.... :(
36 minuten geledenUnity
A mental state.
36 minuten geledenEli Morin
Umm who wanna be friends
36 minuten geledenAdnan Ashraf
This video being #1 trending right now shows how lonely people are 😞
36 minuten geledenEduardo Justi
Watching this video while feeling lonely. 😅
36 minuten geleden찬휘박
멋져!
36 minuten geledenfft2020
very good and insightfull video 1.3 million views on 1st day... oh dear
36 minuten geledenNadine Whittaker
Thank you for citing your sources😍🙏🏾
36 minuten geledenMYG Gaming
I only have one friend. Literally.
36 minuten geledenARMINDER SINGH SAINI
How can you not be lonely when all this world has to offer is loneliness. You give everything possibly you can to someone and still end up used for their selfish needs. How can you not be lonely when everyone is money and self oriented??
36 minuten geledenGlenn Zaleski
Thanks for making this video it helps more than you think
37 minuten geledenTruly Blessed
Anyone want to be friends? I have zero.
37 minuten geledenQuantum Curiosity
so basically as a lonely fat fuck who smokes 3 packs a day, I should just go off myself, instead of waiting around
37 minuten geleden오시영
자막 너무 감사합니다
37 minuten geleden22Wideout AND HIDE YO W’s
0:04 seconds in and I’m already triggered.
37 minuten geledenMelissa Joy Nicdao
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37 minuten geledenBrandon Pérez Pérez
All my whole life explained with the most charming design. It says a lot that it's # 1 on trending on a Sunday night. Knowing that there is nothing more tender than a small dose of depression at night..
38 minuten geledeni
Thank you.
38 minuten geledenRaven Campbell
If it is also partially biological, then may it be worthwhile to develop a drug for the chemical side of that biological need, in order to at least break the cycle? Perhaps that would work better than most modern antidepressants, since it more directly attacks the cause and not the effects
38 minuten geledenHushPuppy Clan
This isn't loneliness, this is just being socially awkward and shy.
38 minuten geledenbolangbolong
This is so sweet and sad, like if you want to be internet Friend with me 😄
38 minuten geledenKimberly Guerrero
Wow this is #1 on trending KOOL👌🏼
38 minuten geledenAbby
I've been lonely my entire life. I've only ever had a handful of friends, never been in a relationship, still a virgin, my best friend is my dogs and mom. I've learned to just distract myself with copious amounts of Netflix.
38 minuten geledenCheese
Am I the only one who doesn’t have any social media account. No Facebook,instagram,Snapchat, no grinder not tinder and hell no no tick tock, only YouTube Damn it cheese don’t cry.
38 minuten geledenSteve Bruce
Anyone looking for friends?
38 minuten geledenALI HADY CARAT
Thank you
39 minuten geledenbluELFsuma
A lot of this felt familiar, but not the conclusion. Shortened version: I accepted the idea of being alone for the rest of my life and am significantly more happy. Has this happened to anyone else? More detailed version: In my particular case, I was always somewhat attracted to seclusion. But, when I was a child, I did have friends. School friends, family friends, friends who were family... I was connected and involved with people. Then, we moved to another city, with another school. Predictably, I couldn't connect with any of the other children there. They had made their cliques, and were at that age where you don't really want to open up to "the new kid". I didn't see any of the non-school-friends either. I think it's because we moved from a populated city to a very rural area. It became too much work for my parents to transport us anywhere other than the grocery store. So we stopped seeing friends, unless there was a big event. For the first two or so years, I actively tried making friends at school. Nothing seemed to work, and I became rather depressed. As the video said, I started subconsciously isolating myself. This feeling lasted until my junior year of high school, where it climaxed. Something clicked, and I simply accepted that I didn't feel... _right..._ around other people. That I couldn't open up around them, properly. That I had always felt like this, to an extent. And I started feeling so much better. I worried less about the people around me. Less about what they thought of me. Funnily enough, this improved my social skills. I have become more confident in myself. I've even improved my work on my hobbies. I _physically_ feel better. All this, from thinking, "I don't think it's very likely that I'll ever have friends again. I don't think I'll ever fall in love with someone. I don't think I should ever have children, adopted or biological. I don't want any of those things." The idea of building my own family sounds horrible. That it would eat away at my being. That I would lose who I am. I finally found myself again. I don't want to lose her to this hypothetical world of forcing myself to be involved with others. And I wonder if someone else has felt this way, too. It must be illogical to assume not, and yet... it feels like I am a rare case.
39 minuten geledenAmy
And that’s why I have food 🥘
39 minuten geledenJace Vlogs
I’m actually lonely... 😔
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